Stillwater News Press

September 28, 2013

Bonnie Mae (Hayden) Alexander

Stillwater NewsPress

— Bonnie Mae (Hayden) Alexander, 91, died peacefully on Thursday, Sept. 26, 2013, in Stillwater. Her funeral service will be held at 2 p.m. on Monday at First Christian Church with the Rev. Owen Cayton officiating. Interment will follow at Sunset Memorial Gardens. Strode Funeral Home is in charge of arrangements.

On Aug. 1, 1922, Bonnie was born in Clinton to the late Victor and Katie (Serber) Hayden. She graduated from Clinton High School before attending Southwestern University, where she earned her master’s degree in education. She married Archibald Boyd Chalmers Alexander on Dec. 28, 1944, in Clinton. Together they lovingly raised two beautiful children, and enjoyed 60 years of marriage before Arch’s death in 2005. As educators and travelers, Arch and Bonnie’s married adventures brought them to live in Tucson, Ariz., as well as Hobart, Sayre, Stillwater and Lawton, but also included assignments in far-flung locales like Egypt and Jamaica, too. She was a member of the First Christian Church and involved in the PEO. Bonnie was a teacher, librarian and pianist, and shared her passions for music, reading, cooking and sports with her family and friends. She is remembered fondly for her loving spirit, her beautiful voice and for her most excellent barbecue beef brisket.

Bonnie is preceded in death by her parents, husband, and daughter, Sheila Mae (Alexander) Cates.

She is survived by her son, Joe A. Alexander, of Warrenton, Va.; granddaughter, Terri A. Alexander, of Bixby; granddaughter, Holly A. Welling, of Suwanee, Ga.; granddaughter, Carrie A. Alexander, of Lithia, Fla.; grandson, Patrick A. Cates, of Laurel, Mont.; granddaughter, Kristen L. Cates, of Great Falls, Mont.; granddaughter, Diana Garnett, of Warrenton, Va.; great-grandchildren: Joe, Steven, and Conor Mullen, Ty Welling, Genevieve and Grace Allen, and Mallory and Cooper Cates; sister, Katie Ann Ware, of Edmond; and brother, Ross Victor “R.V.” Hayden, of Lindsay.

Memorial contributions may be given in her name to the Susan B. Komen Breast Cancer Foundation, 120 N. Robinson, Suite 701, Oklahoma City, 73102.

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